OK.. I’ve been trying to write this for a couple of weeks and have struggled to slim it down to something small enough for you to read but with enough details to express my thoughts, let me know what you think.
There are people in my life, close, dear and friends and social media friends who have anti Christmas views and go out of their way to express them. I have written my thoughts on the subject with the hope that they can understand and perhaps change their minds a little.
What do I NOT believe?
I don’t believe it has much to do with Christianity – Christmas belongs to the Christians as much as Football or Cricket belongs to the English. Yes.. ok.. they may have been involved in setting up the religious thing but it is now been taken over by so many non-Christians, commercial organisations, that Jesus doesn’t pop into people’s minds when they are going about getting ready for Christmas. So much so that it’s been renamed to Xmas long ago!! Non-Christians can express/experience the Christmas ‘spirit’ as good as or better than some of the Christians!
I don’t believe Christmas is about midnight mass or mass spending – I don’t believe in god and I like giving gifts but giving of gifts has been hijacked by the commercial organisations to push us into buying bigger and better things. A gift has to be relevant and useful and meaningful, it doesn’t have to be expensive. You can paint a picture yourself, bake a cake or give a promise IOU, these things don’t cost money but mean much more than a dancing bear or any variety of singing fish! The society we live in has developed the meaning of love in terms of money, but you don’t have to follow that, break away and do your thing but it doesn’t have to be ‘do nothing’. You can buy whatever you can afford, if you’re fortunate enough to be able to buy someone an expensive gift; great otherwise a small meaningful gift or a loving hug will do just fine!
I don’t believe Christmas tree, Turkey, Puddings, Fancy lights are necessities for Christmas, nice but not a necessity. They certainly didn’t have Turkeys or Pine trees in the Middle East 2000 years ago!! These are obviously time based additions to the Christmas event. If you chose not to have them, it doesn’t make you a bad person. If you can afford them and wish to follow the modern trend, great.. enjoy what you can how you can.
I could go on.. but you get the idea!!
What DO I believe?
I believe much like many other man made events in our calendar year, Christmas is a date set aside for whole family/friends occasion. We have Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and Valentine’s Day so why not a Family/Friends’ Day? I know a lot of you will say that every day is that day, why have days set aside.. well my thoughts are quite simple.. in the hectic lives that we have; the day to day events don’t give us the time or the opportunity to meet up with, call or otherwise express our love and feelings for all the people we owe so much to and love so much. A day set aside for these events allow us the time to stop and think and do what we all need and desire.
I believe that as human beings we all need love and affection, no matter how tough our lives may be, once we hold someone we love in our arms, all we want is love. Sometime we don’t get that love back because not everyone is working off the same set of life instructions. We all take knocks in our lives but if we look around there is normally someone there to who thinks that we are important to them. We don’t have to agree with the people we love, I believe there is a separation between love and agreement. We love people for many reasons, having a common agreement may be ONE of the reasons but not the only one. So even if you don’t believe in Christmas as a religious event, it is not a reason not to show the love you have for all the people in your life.
I believe that family/friends circles have widened much more than ever before, more people are getting divorced and remarrying resulting in step-relations making families bigger and our friends are now not only next door or at work but also at all the places we visit and of course the social media sites that we use, although we can’t call all our social contacts friends, there will always be a few that you take into your friends circle. Our lives are much enriched by these extensions to our lives and a lot of our new ‘relations’ may have nothing to do with Christianity but because they are friends or family we can enjoy the Christmas time with them.
I believe it is important to be with the people you love or your friends on the Christmas day, but if for whatever reason you can’t then being in contact with them is better than nothing. Christmas is time for us all to say to those that we love.. ‘I love you’. It is nice if you can say it to their face but sometimes it is just as good if they get your message by other means and in this day and age of multi media communications, it is almost impossible to be out of contact!
For those who are caught up in disliking Christmas for all the reason above and more.. I have just this to say.. Look again.. Christmas is NOT what you may hate, some people may be pushing you into thinking about it that way.. but you don’t have to go along with them.. it is your love and friendship that others are looking for even if it doesn’t seem that way!
You don’t have to go to the midnight mass to feel the Christmas spirit but if you do then that’s great you have included your religious beliefs in the celebration but if that is not for you and if you can just hold someone, call someone and tell them that you care about them.. that is Christmas in its purest sense.
What about Christmas and Nudity? Well let’s leave that for another day!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you all..XX